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KHANZALICA APRILIA - KEI - KEKEI

Assalamualaikum ...

Pagi semuanya. Lagi seru nonton tv sambil nunggu anakku selesai main air di kamar mandi. Berita''nya masih di antara kecelakaan maut tol jagorawi dan vicky atau hendrianto pemalsu surat tanah itu. Heheee, pasti semuanya ngerti deh siapa yang saya maksud. Tapi bedanya hari ini pembahasannya bukan melulu tentang penipuannya itu, tapi lebih kepada bahasa yang dia pakai, antara campuran bahasa indonesia, inggris berantakan, dan bahasa politisi campur pengusaha kali ya hehee. Tadi saya sempet denger dia ngomong, harmonisisasi. Apaan itu harmonisisasi? Bukannya harusnya harmonisasi. Terus ada juga kudeta hati, terus konspirasi kemakmuran. Halah. Bapak itu kan mengaku lulusan S-3 Amerika, sayangnya membingungkan ya, kalo lulusan Amerika masa waktu lagi mencalonkan diri jadi Kepala Desa itu dia bilang : “I’m have. I’m born here.” Oala. SI mas itu lulusan Amerika bagian mananya ya, soalnya biasanya lulusan S-1 Amerika pasti bahasa inggrisnya ya udah kayak Agnes Monica mungkin, hehehe.  Manusia oh manusia.

Eh sebenernya saya lagi kepingin cerita masa lalu tentang anak saya si Khanza itu, yang biasa kami panggil Kei atau Kekei. Namun, anak saya kalau ditanya namanya justru kekeuh nama lengkapnya dia itu Temmy Kekei. Bukannya Khanzalica. Dia suka ngga mau tahu kalo dipanggil Khanza, hehehe.
Anak saya itu tua di perut. Saya ngelahirin kei saat usia kandungan udah mencapai 10 bulan seminggu. Sampai'' ada yang bilang saya itu pemalas karena bayi saya di perut masih nggak mau keluar juga. Memang ada hubungan antara ibu pemalas sama bayi lama di rahim?

Nah, jadi sehari sebelum lahiran itu, keluarga kami baru saja pindahan ke rumah baru. Mungkin saja karna efek cape bebenah dan bolak balik, jadi malemnya di rumah baru itu, tiba2 ketuban pecah 3x. Sayangnya saat itu lagi mati lampu dan hujan gede, jadi kita stayed di rumah sampai ujan mendingan. Pas air ketuban saya keluar ketiga kalinya, alhamdulillah lampu menyala dan saya pun buru2 mandi, makan sedikit, dan langsung ke rumah sakit. Waktu itu, SPOG saya memang di RS Permata Hijau dengan Dr. Yuli. Sampai di RS, saya disuruh CTG dulu. Guna CTG adalah untuk memeriksa denyut jantung. Sekitar satu jam sambil saya berbaring di salah satu kamar. Yang saya rasain saat CTG itu, kepala pusing kleyengan seperti kurang oksigen. Dan memang bener, bayi dalam rahim saya gak banyak bergerak,dan denyut jantungnya pelan sekali, mungkin efek kurang oksigen itu. Akhirnya saya pun dipasangkan oksigen di hidung saya dan kembali tiduran. Alhamdulilah ada pengaruhnya, denyut jantung si bayi meningkat. Jadi saya ga harus langsung caesar.

Gak lama, saya diminta untuk pindah ke ruangan lain, untuk cek dalam. Suster cek apakah saya udah ada pembukaan, ternyata masih pembukan 0 (nol). Saya disuruh makan sandwich dulu dan teh manis anget karena saya bilang ke suster bahwa saya masih mau lahiran normal, akhirnya mereka mutusin untuk induksi saya aja. Sebelum induksi infus, saya diharuskan makan dulu. Gak lama setelah induksi, air ketuban saya pecah lagi, dan kali ini menyembur banyak dan warnanya udah kehijauan. Habis itu saya muntah cairan yang baunya amis. Si suster tanya kok bau amis ya bu muntahannya dan cair. Saya bilang tiga hari belakangan saya disuruh minum telur kampung setengah mateng 5 butir per hari, ini perintah nyokap. Diomelinlah saya kenapa makan mentah2. Yaah, namanya orangtua kan teori orangtua dalam mendidik anak jaman dulu masih dipakai. Ternyata gak boleh makan telur banyak'' pas lagi hamil bo, moderate consumption aja.

Proses induksi yang mulai jam 11-an malem, awalnya sakitnya jarang'' dan gak terlalu sakitlah. Tapi makin kesini makin ekstrim sakitnya, dan frekuensi dateng dan perginya si nyeri itu makin sering. Ternyata memang induksi itu rasanya beda2 buat tiap orang, ada yang bilang nggak berasa ada yang bilang sakit banget. Kalo saya dari sekitar jam 2an pagi, si induksi itu menyebabkan air ketuban saya makin sering keluar dan bercampur darah. Bawaanya mau pipis terus deh.

Jam 6 pagi Dokter Yuli dateng, dan cek pembukaan saya, sayangnya masih bukaan 0 (nol) saja sodara2. Beneran anak di rahim saya gak mau keluar kali yah. Keputusannya adalah ya untuk operasi, karena air ketuban saya yang udah kehijauan itu beracun dan takutnya tertelan si bayi. Jam 8 saya masuk ruang operasi dengan sakit yang luar biasa. Dalem ruang operasi, udah ada sekitar 3 dokter, dan mereka lagi asik mengobrol. Saya udah hepi hepi aja karena kan saat itu dalam bayangan saya, kalo mau operasi caesar kan pasti dibius, dan nyeri saya bakalan ilang dalam hitungan detik.

Saya tunggu dan tunggu dan tunggu. Saya tergeletak bagaikan seonggok daging di kereta dan sempet liat jam dinding. Udah hampir setengah sembilan! Ternyata dokter biusnya belum dateng. Perut saya nggak mungkin dibelek tanpa bius. Kepingin nangis rasanya menahan rasa sakit perut itu, saking nyerinya saya muter muter di atas keranda rumah sakit ke kanan ke kiri, sampai berisik kali ya. Sedangkan para dokter asik BBMan dan ngobrol aja. Kayanya operasi beginian hal biasa buat mereka, kaya operasi belah kodok hehehe.

Alhamdulillah jam 9 kurang pak dokter bius dateng, dan dengan sigap mereka langsung memindahkan saya ke meja operasi, saya didudukkan dan disuntik di punggung. Sekejap, sakitnya ilang! Magic deh hehehehe. Dr Yuli nanya, ibu siap ya bu, karena saya mau pasang kateter. Nah pas pasang kateter aja nggak terasa apapun. Lalu dokter tanya, ibu mau lihat proses operasinya. Nggalah, akhirnya setengah badan saya ditutup tirai, jadi saya ngga bisa lihat apapun. Yang terasa Cuma hawa dingin banget di ruang operasi itu. Dokter Yuli pun kasih ancang'', ibu siap ya kita mulai sekarang... Saya langsung nengok ke arah kanan lama banget supaya saya ngga ngeliat apapun, soalnya kalo saya lihat ke atas, ada pantulannya gitu. Saya tutup mata..dan terakhir yang saya inget, saya mendengar suara bayi menangis. Terus saya juga masih merasa kedua tangan saya gemeteran hebat. Setelah itu kayaknya saya dibius total, karena saya ngga ingat apapun lagi.

Jam 2 siang saya inget udah dibawa kembali ke kamar, kei lahir jam 9:12 pagi 18 April 2011 lalu. Jam an saya udah bisa melek dan ngobrol sama keluarga yang lain. Sorenya kei dibawa masuk, karena saya bilang saya mau ASI-in dia.  Pengalaman pertama menyusui itu deg2an bangetm takut gak keluar, tapi karena berbulan2 saya belajar semua hal tentang ASI dari AIMI ASI dan Ayah ASI saya siap 100%, Dan memang ASI saya banyak keluar. Walaupun sempet mengalami mastitis dan luka perih sampai terkelupas ya. Tapi semua terbayar, karena kei tumbuh jadi anak sehat yang hampir nggak pernah sakit. Memang ASI is the best for our babies :]
before the eid prayer

when she's born

one day kei

she loves ice cream
a bit sleepy after a long drive

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PEACEFUL PARENTING

Assalamualaikum.. (Peace be with you)
I am basically reposting this from a web on parenting :-)
hope it gives us all a better understanding on how we treat our kids :-)

Children of the Tao: Ten Tips for Peaceful Parenting

By Sarah Long © 2011


1) Value peace.

Peace is [the Master’s] highest value. If the peace has been shattered, how can he be content? (#31)

It is not possible to teach our children about the importance of peace if we are raising them in a chaotic atmosphere, or if they see us cheering at every new war and picking arguments with family members and neighbors. Let's evaluate our home: Is it a soothing environment that is conducive to happy children and peaceful parenting? Or is there loud music, continuous television and other noises competing for attention, raised voices, and frequent arguments?

2) Lead by example.

The Master is content to serve as an example and not to impose her will. (#58)

Remember, children model behavior that they see, and they always seem to pick the negative behavior to model first. Have you ever gone on a cursing rampage while stuck in rush hour traffic with your children sitting in the backseat? They will repeat the words that they hear us saying, whether we want them to or not. They may not do it in front of us, but we can't be surprised if a parent knocks on our front door to notify us that "your child taught my child the F-word..."  Of course, it is likely that their child has already heard the word elsewhere, but why not be the parent on the block whose children model positive words and behavior?

3) Do everything in moderation. 

For governing a country well,there is nothing better than moderation. (#59)

Parenting is all about finding our personal balance. Frequently, parents have one or more jobs, in addition to extracurricular activities for the kids, running errands, housecleaning, and meal preparation. In all of the shuffle, it is easy to overburden oneself, which results in frazzled nerves and easy irritation. This, in turn, can be taken out on our children. It is important to teach moderation to our kids. Part of this can be done by modeling balanced behavior, but there is also value in verbally communicating the importance of not overdoing things.

4) Live simply.

If you look to others for fulfillment, you will never truly be fulfilled. If your happiness depends on money,you will never be happy with yourself. (#44)

It is easy to have a complicated life, but in most cases, complicated means stressful. A perfect example of this is walking through the house after everyone has gone to bed, and stubbing a toe on furniture, stepping on toys, and tripping over shoes left in front of the couch. While it is necessary for our children to have clothing and toys, is it necessary for them to have so much that they cannot keep up with everything? It may be a good idea to limit our children's toys to what can fit into one toy box, and to donate everything else to a homeless shelter or second-hand store. If there is time, children can help to choose what needs to go, which will teach them a little about sharing and helping those less fortunate.

5) Be proactive whenever possible.

Prevent trouble before it arises. Put things in order before they exist. (#64)

In order to have a smoothly-run home, it is essential that we learn to stay on top of things that happen inside and outside the four walls of our abode. By paying attention to details and making a habit of proactively and preemptively solving any problems, we add to the overall peaceful environment in our homes and make our lives and those of our children easier, which will in turn lead to a more peaceful tone in our family life.

6) Teach your children the importance of good sportsmanship.

The best athlete wants his opponent at his best. (#68)

If we raise children who value fairness and good sportsmanship, it is likely that they will grow up to value egalitarianism in all of its forms. However, if we raise children to be overly competitive, and they witness us trashing others in order to make ourselves look and feel better, than they will have a skewed view of what it takes to get along in polite company. This can potentially lead to problems once they become adults - including boorish behavior and ignorance of social mores.

7) Act without expectations.

[The Master] lets all things come and go effortlessly, without desire. He never expects results; thus he is never disappointed. (#55)

Have you ever given someone a gift that you thought they would rave over, only to receive a disappointingly tepid response? Imagine if you had given it to them without any expectations: what may have seemed like a indifferent smile would now just be a smile, and you may be more satisfied with their response. The same can be said for any other aspect of life. If we go into a situation with high expectations, we may well be disappointed. This has the potential to lead to irritation, hurt feelings, etc. Instead, we may try to focus on realistic expectations with our children, and find we are able to avoid the intense negative feelings and reactions that come with unmet expectations.

8) Know when and how to yield.

The hard and stiff will be broken. The soft and supple will prevail. (#76)

There will be many times when our children are unable or unwilling to follow the rules we have laid out for them. When this happens, it is up to us, as their parents, to decide what our reaction will be. Will we punish them for every little infraction? Or have we created some breathing room in our rules, so that children have small opportunities to think for themselves and make personal decisions about their behavior? Being a parent is not about setting things in stone, but rather about knowing when situations call for flexibility in favor of our child’s overall growth.

9) React appropriately to outbursts and misbehavior.

The soft overcomes the hard; the gentle overcomes the rigid. (#78)

Anyone who has dealt with a three-year-old’s temper tantrum can attest to the fact that yelling at a child or punishing them for their outburst rarely has the desired effect. It is this author’s experience that most outbursts are the result of the child being overly tired or overcome with emotions (such as frustration, fear, sadness, etc.), not of a child intentionally trying to misbehave. If such behavior is handled with love and understanding, rather than more negative reactions, then said behavior is much more likely to clear itself up quickly, rather than snowballing into something more severe. This not only saves time and energy, but reinforces your overall attitude of peaceful parenting and creates a closer bond between us and our child.

10) Trust the process, especially when it doesn’t seem to be working.

Let the Tao be present in your lifeand you will become genuine. Let it be present in your family and your family will flourish. (#54)

There will be days when nothing that we are doing seems to have the desired effect, and we are tempted to revert to more aggressive measures in order to assert our authority over our children or a trying situation. However, this will only serve to undermine all of the hard work we have put into everything to that point, in order to create a peaceful environment for our family. Children need consistency, and this includes consistency in our parenting philosophies. If they see six days of peaceful parenting followed by one day of aggressive measures, this can cause them to lose trust in our authority, and to question their role in the sudden change of atmosphere. Even when it is difficult, it is crucial that we remain a reliable, steadfast person in their life, so they in turn can depend on us as they grow to be reliable, strong-rooted adults themselves.
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ONLY JAPANESE PEOPLE CAN THINK OF THESE, I ASSUME :)

Have you watched the Masquerade program? It is obviously Japanese. It is absolutely unthinkable. Japanese people have always been considered as people who think out of the box most of the time, other than them being polite and disciplined, of course.
I have gathered images or pictures of inventions (of japanese people for sure) that may make us all nod or shake our head. Never thought that these things would ever exist in real life :p

These two are pillows. yep pillows. Why do these pillows look like a woman's lap or a guy's body? These pillows are good for those who are lonely. Hahahaa, when you miss your partner and need a hug or some kind of warmth, then these pillows are the option :)



The one below is called the mouth opener. i honestly dont know what it is for. But I guess it can be used to make your lips fuller and wider? I have no clue. Perhaps it can make you smile more beautifully, hehee.

Here is a good one to purchase when you normally can't sleep well during your bedtime. Bring a couple of these then position your head properly, close your eyes and stick them right on. Nobody would tell you are actually sleeping with your eyes wide open, :p


I need to have these! 
I love to eat noodles, particularly when it is hot. But the thing is it takes a lot of energy to use chopsticks and eat and also keep blowing the noodles so that it'll be less hot. And I heard it is also not polite to blow or smell your food. When do you think these will arrive and be sold in Jakarta?



Bras. Men's Bras. What do you think  of it?
Men seem to be jealous of women, and what we are able to put on, make up, dresses, pretty colourful clothes, etc etc.
These are a sign of masculinity?






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Sampai Bersih...

Saya ini cinta kebersihan. Maksudnya bukan tiap saat harus ngelap kaca jendela biar cling, tapi ada perasaan aneh dalem hati kalo rumah gak dipel sehari aja.
Sebenernya rumah yang saya tinggalin saat ini ya ngga gede gede amat, cuma ya harus disyukuri. Terus, di rumah dua kamar ini cuma bertiga, saya, kei, dan ponakan perempuan saya yang mamanya meninggal januari lalu. Bapaknya? jangan ditanya deh. Ini rumah punya mama saya, sedangkan nyokap tinggal beberapa ratus meter dari sini, setiap hari bolak balik aja, karena persediaan makanan enak adanya di tempat nyokap :-) saya ga ahli masak pula soalnya. Walopun sekedar nasi atw mie goreng atw sayur bening bisalah dikit dikit, hehehe...
Saya ilfeel liat debu, apalagi kalo ada ceceran rambut di pojokan kamar. Bawaannya mau disapu pel terus terus.
Nah, untuk urusan rumah emang ada beberapa hal yang saya, ikutin nyokap, terapin di rumah. Beberapanya itu misalkan.. :

1. Untuk menguras bak mandi yang kadang jadi licin dan rada menghitam gitu, kita pake bubuk Sitrun. Bisa dibeli di toko tradisional kok, kalo di supermarket, entah ya.
Bubuk putih ini kaya mecin kali ya. Jadi bak mandi dibuang airnya dulu, trus ini sitrun disiramin ke dalem bak-nya, terutama yang licin licin gajebo itu. Diamkan setengah jam kali ya, tapi tiap 10 menit tambahin air, trus bak-nya diputer puter biar kena ke segala arah, biar semua kebagian maksudnya. Nah kalo udah keliatan bersih, dibilas deh, sikat gosok asal aja pake sabun krim :-)

2. Kalo untuk bersihin dapur, kaya kompor gitu sih terus terang saya pake Cif Cream. Bersih banget. Cuma kalo lagi rajin nih plus ada bahannya, saya campur cuka sama lemon/jeruk nipis, digosok gosok deh, wangi pula.

3. Nah dirumah kadang suka ada kecoa nongol, biasanya saya langsung sebar kamper baju yang kecil kecil gitu di pojokan, kecoa kan ngga suka yang wangi wangi, makanya dia betah bergaul sama tempat sampah.

4. Di depan rumah kita nih ada beberapa pot pohon, yang kadang kalo ujan tiba tiba ada cacing aja nongol, biasanya garam+cuka saya campur, saya siram siram deh di sekitar area pintu, jijik banget abisnya.

5. Trus nyamuk nih, ini dapet dari petugas cleaning service yang dulu saya kenal, dia ngepel lantai biasanya dua kali. Yang pertama, itu lap pel disemprot dengan minyak tanah beberapa kali. Nah yang kedua baru dipel lagi pake pengharum lantai. Sepertinya efektif ya ini. Cuma kalo saya, karena males, saya langsung semprot itu minyak tanah di pojokan ruangan atau teras depan rumah, ehheh.

6. Air lemon+garam bisa dipakai untuk bersihin kerak talenan atau sink yang stainless steel.
7. Minyak goreng (dikit aja) bisa untuk membersihkan furnitur kayu. Biasanya kalau cma dilap pakai air, sore hari biasanya mulai berdebu lagi.

Kehabisan ide apa lagi ini. cuma semoga ada gunanya :-)




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